When you hear the world “Elopement” what does come in your mind?
Are you thinking about those amazing looking couples hiking the top of a mountain?
Well, is understandable that you have this kind of vision, as for years media have been bombarding us with those “perfect” images
carrying with them, an “Idealised” idea of Elopement. It is true that most of the Elopement you see on-line are in natural places
with stunning views, but this is actually one singular aspect that might be included, but is absolutely not of all of it!
Eloping means so much more!
Let’s take a moment to see what Elopement actually means:
Definition of Elopement :
Elopement is an intentional intimate wedding experience, that reflects you and your relationship
where the focus of the day is on you two
There is nothing talking about hiking, or spending all day taking photos
There are actually so many positive things that an Elopement can give you, and it’s my pleasure to tell you more about it
How many traditional weddings have you been invited to? Did you notice perhaps what the couple has been doing all day?
There isn’t a specific statistic for this, but for sure they didn’t have so much time to dedicate to themselves.
Let’s be honest, when you are planning a traditional wedding you are preparing the biggest event of your life
And most of the time all the effort is for the event. The more things you add, the more people you invite, the less time you are
leaving for yourself. And this is not your guests fault, it’s just how big traditional weddings work
But what does happen when you decide to elope?
You are intentionally creating space for you and your partner, to enjoy little intimate moments
To be free to cuddle in peace in a quiet hidden place just for you two if you want
To have the opportunity to share your vows and whisper them if you feel it more “yours”
“Just as Experience”
The standard idea of getting married includes many guests, but hey we are not all the same!
There are other people who would like focussing the day on them, and eloping it’s a great way to do it.
When you elope, you can decide what to do and how to do it, in total freedom, you can create an experience that is
totally based on what’s important for you and your partner, making space for your desires and ideas
“Experience over stuff”
Many people think that when a couple is eloping is doing it to spend less.
While is true that an elopement can cost much less than a traditional wedding, it doesn’t mean that you care less
about your wedding day. You are instead investing your money in something different, that has more meaning for you.
For those couples who values experiences rather than stuff, for who like more the idea of a tour on a hot-air ballon
rather than a luxury restaurant, elope can be the answer! Instead of spending for fancy decorations and Photo-Boot
you can spend your money in an exotic travel, or a breathtaking experience like Bungee Jumping.
If you feel like doing it of course, it does not matter WHAT experience
What it really matters is what makes you feel happy and alive.
Yes, eloping can take off all the stress coming from planning a big party.
There are less things to think about, less technical details, and no strict timeline to follow
It can be really simple if you want. No more “Should I put the plus one?” “In which table should I collocate auntie Jenny?”
I am not saying that big traditional weddings are wrong, they can be the dream for many couples, and if so, go for it!
Just consider what does this include. Spending months looking for suppliers, choose the right ones
calculate the budget, making lists, dealing with thousands of situations, and when the day finally arrive
be prepared because there will be other things coming to manage the day
I have been shooting traditional weddings for many years, and too many times I saw couples literally running to keep
everything going on, like making sure that the guests are having fun, transportations, group photos, catering, etc.
Some of them, did not even have time to eat something, or spending ten minutes to have a relaxed chat with friends
as the “maximum time allowed per person was five minutes”
Planning BIG means big responsibility, and a timeline to respect for the sake of the event
I would never want for you a day where you feel overwhelmed
You should enjoy every second of this moment, and remember that day as the most beautiful of your life!
Putting on a side the “Planning Stress” consider also how much freedom and quality time you can get when you elope
Yes, there is planning also here, but it is less than you can imagine, and totally doable
Plus you will have a day where you are relaxed, comfortable, free to do whatever you want and when you want!
You can enjoy as much time as you need to speak with your family and friends, have sweet moments with your partner
enjoy the entire day with no exemptions!
Oh yes, this is another thing maybe you did’t know…
You can elope and have your family and friends with you! Nobody said you can’t.
Just keep in mind that the amount of guests should be contained, to keep all the positive aspects of going intimate
I hope this article was a source of inspiration for you and alternatives for you, as you see there are other ways
Instead of worrying, postponing/rescheduling you can opt for something simple, stress free, and authentically yours.