What does Elope Mean

What does Elope Mean

The true meaning of Elopement

This is a really good question! If you write it on google, you will see several definitions

Most of them will tell you that it means : “Running away to get married secretly” 

Yep, not really positive as description. 

Except that this definition was correct many, many years ago! 

It exactly starts from the 14 Century where the root of the word “aloper” meant, “leap.”

During the great depression, the term has evolved into another meaning, at that time some couples

couldn’t afford the cost of a wedding, and an elopement was more practical and affordable

but anyway it was seen as a cheap solution, not worth of respect or consideration unless you were poor. 

As time passed, however, things have changed, and now this word means something completely different! 

I am writing here the new meaning: 

“An elopement is an intentionally small, intimate, meaningful, and authentic wedding experience that is a

true reflection of your relationship where the focus of the day is really about you two.”

Cit. Adventure Instead

What a lovely, accurate, perfect description! 

Precisely, we are in 2021, things change, they are evolving, and the concept of getting married is not

anymore a standard solution that suits everyone. There are instead, infinite options, choices and different tastes

and new, exciting, alternative ways to say “I do”. You don’t have to do it in a church if you don’t want

you don’t have to throw a big party with 150 guests, if you don’t fell like doing it.

There is not a “Must do” list to follow. 

Everything you know about weddings,  it’s a bunch of notions that have developed

during the years  making us think that was the only way! 

But what if you don’t like the idea of a traditional wedding?

What if the thought  of saying yours vows in front of  many people scare the hell out of you?

What if you are a reserved person, and imagine a more simple day? 

Here comes the option! You can elope instead!

Elopement now has a completely different meaning, and brings with it so many positive things! 


Why freedom? Because this is what happens most of the time, when everybody know you are getting married:

“Did you think already about the table arrangements?” “What wedding favours will you give?”

“You know, I have a cousin who is  a very good dj! I will call him!”

“We have to invite also aunt Jenny you know? What? You don’t remember who aunt Jenny is??!” 

Yep…everyone inevitably, some more, some less, they will give their idea of “what to do” end there is nothing bad about it. 

But! These are THEIR IDEAS, and they often come from the same source:

The concept of a wedding done and thought with a STANDARD BASE FOR EVERYONE! 

Here start the phase, where YOU, future bride and groom, have the right, and have to say what do YOU want and what not! 

That’s why I speak about freedom.

When you decide to elope, you are already announcing that you want something out of the scheme

that doesn’t follow standard rules, but is instead tailored on what YOU like and what YOU would like to do! 

Therefore, if you don’t want many people, but prefer instead something intimate, go for that! 

If the idea of a restaurant dinner  after the ceremony, doesn’t attract you, don’t do it! 

Do you want instead a barbecue outdoor with few people? Do that! 

Do you imagine yourself happier, just the two of you and your closest family, eating pizza in a B&B? Do that! 

Do you feel like a room inside the council/venue is not really what you were imagining

and you would prefer a ceremony in front of a lake? Do that! 

Elopement means NO RULES!

You can really throw out the window, all the preconceptions of “It has to be done like this”

and replace them  with “It has to be done as WE say” 

Just because the rest of the world did like this until now, it doesn’t mean you have to do the same 

Not necessarily. You are unique, and you deserve to have a day that you feel authentically yours.

To better understand how an elopement is different from the concept of traditional wedding

(this is useful also to figure out if you are elopement type) there is a little exercise to do. 

Imagine your “Perfect Day” 

I am not talking abut the wedding day, but more in general 

If you could have a “perfect day” that includes all the things that make you feel happy

and make you feel good with yourself… What do you see? 

Where are you? What are you doing? What are you eating and drinking? What do you hear? 

And after doing “x” that was soooo cool, what else after that? 

Good, now you know what to do on your wedding day! Include the ceremony and its done! 

The most beautiful thing of an elopement is that you can create from zero, a day

that is a true reflection  of you two, and your relationship, because IS ABOUT YOU TWO and nobody else! 

Sounds nice right? 

Photo to show alternative way to get married


If you choose to elope you will definitely have many romantic and personal moments to share during the day!

This because there will be much less things to think about

all connected with “included obligations” with a big traditional wedding.

What obligations I am talking about? Things like “Check if all the guest arrived at the restaurant”

“Go to every table and speak with all the guests, making sure you are not missing someone ” 

and many other things to do during the day, to make sure that everything goes on smoothly following the timeline.

I don’t want to be the one that says “Big traditional wedding are evil”, is not absolutely like that.

But consider the side effects that a big party has, and lack of intimacy is one of those. 

Imagine instead, how much free time you would have if you decide to go for an elopement! 

All that time, that you would have spent for technical and management details

it’s all for you and you can spend it how you like it! 

Whether it’s for an hour cuddling on a hammock in the woods, or a meaningful, relaxed chat

with your families and friends, with no rush or worrying about anything.. you can have that! 

Think also about the intimacy you could have during your ceremony! 

As I said, there are NO RULES when you elope, you can share your vows just between you two

far from the guests eyes, for example, and then have the ceremony with them! 

If the idea of speaking, expressing your feelings in front of many people, doesn’t make you feel comfortable

an elopement can blow this fear away, and give you an amazing, romantic, personal intimate moment

where you can let yourself go… with no fear, no expectations… nothing that you don’t want.

There is you, and your love for each other… you don’t need anything else. 

When you elope there is Intimacy


If you have married friends, certainly they told you about how much planning there was behind

how many months spent looking for suppliers, locations, solving problems and thinking about thousands of details. 

Most of them ended up the day before the wedding exhausted and feeling overwhelmed.

Is all part of the game obviously, you can’t expect to be relaxed and calm when you are planning the biggest event of your life! 

Please note, however, I said EVENT 

What causes all this stress?

It’s because you are not planning something focusing just on you two

but you are actually planning something where the focus is ON THE EVENT.

Imagine instead, how easier would be, planning a day based and really focused on YOU AND YOUR DESIRES.

There is obviously some planning to do too, but is much, much less work! 

To make you better understand, this is what me and my hubby did: 

  • Booked a B&B in Lake District 
  • Found a outdoor natural location for our ceremony 
  • Found an officiant willing to come to the location 
  • Bought dress for me and outfit for him  + shoes 
  • Bougth a bouquet, flower crown, boutonnière 
  • Rings + Box 
  • Booked a photographer 
  • List of songs for the ceremony 
  • Written vows 
  • Booked a private chef for an intimate dinner at the end of the day 
  • Booked a day at the  city council to sign the paper later

That’s it! Does it sound stressful?

As well as having less things to think about for the planning part, think also about how the day will be! 

You won’t have to run from a place to another keeping constantly an eye at the watch

you won’t have anything to manage, you won’t have to feel obliged to do anything that you don’t want! 

On this day there is space just for relaxed, and happy, quality time! 


If you are the type of people that prefer going in holiday in a new place

instead of a last model car,  you should consider an elopement.

If you value experience over stuff, then most likely you are an elopement type! 

The beauty of the Elopement world is that you can combine these things!

 A day where you commit into each others life, spent doing activities together that you actually enjoy! 

Instead of spending your money for a massive huge villa party

or decorations, you can spend them in  breathtaking experiences! 

It can be flying somewhere else, but not just that. It can be bungee jumping, a tour on a bout

hiking on a mountain, swimming, a flight on an helicopter!

Literally whatever you want, it doesn’t matter what it is, as long as  it makes you feel amazing! Think big! 

As you can see, the meaning of elopement is far from the old preconception of running away

but it assumed instead, the power of creating something unique, and personal based on YOU and what make you feel happy.


If I put a flea in your ears, and you would like to know more about it, contact me! 

I would love to give you as many informations you need

and I look forward to help you if you decide to do things IN YOUR WAY.

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